Boy Toy Hooked Up with a Stanford Student and Wrote About It and Became Famous?

I had this rather awkward OKCupid conversation about two years ago. Unbeknownst to me, I hooked up with an undergrad at Stanford and wrote about it and became famous! This was actually the moment I realized that I had created somewhat of a phenomenon. Boy Toy suddenly became bigger than me, with an infamous life of his own, embedded in fiction beyond the grasp of my own reality.

It’s amazing how words can influence us. Every story changes depending on who reads it, and we all take a little something different from a narrative to which we can associate. None of the original Confessions ever mentioned Stanford (or any California college, for that matter), but guys still identified with it, flexing to believe it could be about them or about someone they might know. Our own experiences shape the way we view the world — the way we read a blog.

I am proud to have written something that resonated with so many guys all over the world, most of whom I’ve never even met. It goes to show that I’m not the only one to have (over)reacted over a broken heart or mourned a failed relationship or got caught up in my own fantasies of being the one. Even the most specific circumstances can become universal if the right emotion is involved.

Now that Boy Toy is out and about — hooking up with discerning undergrads all over the country without my knowledge, let alone my permission — how could I ever reign him back in? Or is it better to just let him float free? Unattached and uncommitted. Not bound to answer to anyone – not even the man who created him.

BOY TOYS TALK BACK: How did you find out about the original Confessions of a Boy Toy blog? Did I hook-up with someone at your school too?

From Lovers to Friends, Let Me Be the One to Say Goodbye

Icona Pop – “Lovers to Friends”

Earlier this week, I was lamenting the fact that 2011 has been utterly Robyn-less. Luckily, Sweden never disappoints in delivering its prime export: the solid pop act. Icona Pop just released their EP, Night Like This, and this is one of my favorite songs. Oh, the mess we get into when we cross those friend zones.

Squeaky Clean or Raunchy By Nature: Glee’s Gay Teen Sexuality Complex

A version of this post appeared in The Huffington Post.

Last night, kids got naughty for the first time on Glee. The episode had a premature ejaculation of controversy mainly because the Parents Television Council called the cherry-popping story arc, “reprehensible” even before it aired. Apparently the PTC has never watched Gossip Girl or Teen Mom, where popped cherry sherbet is served on a weekly basis.

Ryan Murphy felt the need to defend the episode because he can’t really keep his mouth shut. “Everybody has seen a straight couple losing their virginity,” Ryan told EW, “but has anyone dovetailed the gay and straight stories together and given them equal weight? That seemed like an exciting choice and a new thing.” So is Ryan Murphy more interested in pushing conservative buttons or creating realistic portrayals? (See also: Nip/Tuck, American Horror Story).

Chris Colfer (Kurt) also had to preface the episode in where his virginal, almost-asexual character gets (I assume) pounded. He told E! News, “it is just kind of a known fact that a lot of gay kids are very promiscuous and non-exclusive…which is really sad.” Colfer hopes that Kurt and Blaine can change that trend of gay teens being total whores. Browsing DList.com, I can’t help but think that the young actor may have a point…

Boy Toy Essentials

Glasses – to see where you’ve been.
Camera – to remember what you saw.
Computer – to let the world know.
Sneakers – to run away as fast as you can.

Let Him Be: How to Deal with Your Boyfriend’s Single Behavior

Last night PR powerhouse Claudia Ross invited me to dinner at Park Tavern, the new North Beach restaurant Michael Bauer called the “Stars of the 21st century.” While double fisting champagne and pinot grigio and sitting next to the pixie-licious Emily Morse, of course our conversation quickly fixated on sex and relationships and “everything in between,” as Emily would say. And it didn’t help that we were passing around a top-secret, new kind of female vibrator – but that’s another story!

Being in a relationship is about compromise, Emily and I agreed. I have always been relatively independent, a lone wolf of sorts. So whenever I do jump into something serious, it’s become somewhat of a survival strategy to have to set some boundaries. I could never be in a 24/7, co-dependent, never out without the other, type of relationship. My life has no set schedule, so it can get pretty hectic: juggling writing assignments, fielding pitches, meeting new sources, attending events, interviewing, following up, etc. I need the time to decompress, and just be by myself some days.