Technology moves at lightning speed, putting the world (of dating) at our fingertips and giving suitors a more efficient means of getting ROI on their efforts. Just think of the effort it takes to call someone and set up a date — getting up the balls, figuring out what you are going to say, doing it, then following through on the plan. Or you can group text 3 people you are “talking to” simultaneously and see who’s up for a night cap at your place…
– From a Techromance article on a 2011 study suggesting that texting and Facebook get people under the covers faster than ever.
And with new apps and social services like Bang with Friends, Tinder and MeetMoi, the technology that facilitates getting laid is getting more efficient.
On one side: excitement, excess, stimulation, mystery. On the other: safety, security, comfort, familiarity. Sex, romance, intimacy—all the things promised by finding the right match on an online dating site—drink from both. And so does the very experience of online dating. On the one hand finding a match and getting a lovely email from someone with a hot picture and an intriguing profile provides only a squirt of exitement, however much you may think you want a torrent. But on the other, well, there’s not a whole lot at risk. Sitting in your pj-s at your computer in the solitary comfort of your own home is pretty comfortable. You’re able to get a charge that is worth it because you are not really put that much on the line.
– From an article on Psychology Today about why online dating sites are designed to be play with our search for love by creating a “sweet spot” where the possibilities are endless while browsing in the comfort of our own home.
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