Tom Bianchi: The Original Instagay

I never set out to be a photographer, I set out to be an artist. I wanted to paint, sculpt, make beautiful things, have a cool time. But I started playing around with cameras, and I realized that photography was, every bit of it, a very personal diary. The best advice I ever got about what I was doing came from Robert Mapplethorpe’s boyfriend Sam Wagstaff. I was showing him some of my pictures and some of the things I thought were very coolly composed and had artistic coloring, and he was poo-pooing them. He said, you can’t compete for color with everyone else, but you’ve got one thing that no one else has: you have the uncanny ability to take us behind the doors of you and your friends’ lives. Make your pictures about that. That’s what’s going to be interesting in hundreds of years. And he’s right. I’m interested in conceptual art and all of that, but it seems to me not so interesting as pictures of life. Because the lessons that we need to learn, to have a fulfilling life, come from other people.

– Gay photographer Tom Bianchi opens up to The Fader‘s Alex Frank about capturing genuine tenderness, the youthful, lusty ideal and how life was like before Instagram on idyllic Fire Island of the 70s and 80s. Bianchi’s new photography book, Fire Island Pines. Polaroids, 1975 – 1983 is available now.

Towards the end of the interview, Alex asks Bianchi about Instagram and self-exposure. Bianchi’s response makes me think we should take more shirtless selfies. Maybe we should show ourselves off more, fuck it.

One of the remarkable things about the book is kind of how it feels like Instagram before Instagram was invented. Your work kind of predicts internet exhibitionism, showing off your friends, your self, your vacation.

I think exhibitionism is a healthy thing. If you have high self-regard, play with yourself, put yourself out there. You’ll be so much more free and healthy for it. I’ve always said you have to find something that you think is a little scary and you’re not sure you would be comfortable doing it, and then that’s the cliff you throw yourself off. What’s the downside? Well, maybe you get more dates on Saturday night. And smile while you’re doing it.

Alex also shares with Bianchi a feeling I’ve had all too well. Seeing photos of this golden gay era days goneby and feeling not so much nostalgia, but envy that perhaps I was born too late.

I was born in 1986, but sometimes I wish I’d come of age in 1986. Before the Internet, writing for a magazine was like being on The Hills and you didn’t need an iPhone app to find the horny guy with only a towel wrapped around his waist.

Then again, if I had come of age in 1986, chances are I’d be dead.

Jake Shears’ Most Ridiculous Instagram Photos

To all intents and purposes, Jake Shears is a rock star. And apparently all rock stars look mighty good sweating onstage. The Scissor Sisters are currently on tour and just released Magic Hour, my favorite songs being “Keep Your Shoes On,” “Fuck Yeah,” “Somewhere” and the epic dance jam “Let’s Have a Kiki.”

Front man Shears has been getting lots of heat recently, ever since getting really, really hot – as documented by his Instagram account. The image above had the accompanying caption: “Life is hard.” But judging from the look of those stripped swim briefs, it doesn’t look that hard at all.

From Jake Himself

What do you mean you look ridiculous?

“Pretty Picture Party” – Kylie Minogue (Feat. Jake Shears)

Well you know what they say: You can take Disneyland out of the fairy but you can’t take the fairy out of Disneyland.

From Fans

mrkylieminogue shares Exhibit A. But really, can’t you just imagine these two throwing themselves “Pretty Picture Parties”? What do you think they listen to? Cindy Lauper? Blondie?

everydaymonocles gives us a show shot. Yes, boys, that man is wearing a motherfucking mesh tank top.

jdurban: How butch.

parkerelizabeth: Mary, Fuck or Kill?

Media: Sex and Instagram Radio Podcast with Emily Morse

Last month I went into the studio to talk with Emily Morse and cohort Menace about gay dating on Instagram, more specifically my article which had just been published on The Huffington Post. It was perfect timing to broach the topic on Sex with Emily because news of Facebook acquiring Instagram broke that very morning.

We talked about the lack of bros at Hunky Jesus (2:50-mark), male versus female circumcision (19:30-mark) and party hopping with Andy Cohen (8:30-mark) (the three of us were all at an amfAR benefit last Fall). When I visited Emily’s show, she was finally in the clear to talk about her upcoming reality TV show Miss Advised premiering June 18, so I tried to convince her to host a special screening of the Bravo show at the Castro Theatre.

Oh, we also talked tons about Instagram! The latter half of the show, starting at the 24-minute mark, was dedicated entirely to that topic.

A Little More Color: On Friends and Unfiltered Moments

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If you took some time yesterday to peruse through the photos of the last must-follow Instagram user on my list, you might have caught a few snapshots of me. Alright… yes, JP is not only an intrepid Instagram user with an eye for color and composition — he’s also one of my bestest buddies in San Francisco. He took this photo at my panel last month and this photo at my reading last year. So needless to say, I am a big fan.

After I decided to add him to my arbitrary-as-hell list of users to follow on Instagram, I spent the entire afternoon looking at his photos. Unlike me, who jumped on the Instagram bandwagon shortly after I got a iPod and just a few months shy of the buzzy Facebook acquisition and with totally ulterior, pre-meditated motives to pen an “expose,” JP has been using Instagram for over a year. Looking through his Instagram collection brought back a flurry of — albeit filtered — memories reminding me once again just how lucky I am to have found such awesome friends in San Francisco. In that, JP played a part.

After college, there are no such things as real world orientation or new adult week. Yet haven’t we all envisioned, viciously, the type of friends we are destined to meet? People who crave like we do, desperate for brighter color, deeper contrast, vibrant life. And in our hunger, together share the collective memories of those frail, unfiltered moments when we were all so young, broke and beautiful. Those memories — at least Mark Zuckerberg and JP agree — are worth about a billion dollars.