Sexting with Friends: The Technology and Art of Getting Laid

Technology moves at lightning speed, putting the world (of dating) at our fingertips and giving suitors a more efficient means of getting ROI on their efforts. Just think of the effort it takes to call someone and set up a date — getting up the balls, figuring out what you are going to say, doing it, then following through on the plan. Or you can group text 3 people you are “talking to” simultaneously and see who’s up for a night cap at your place…

From a Techromance article on a 2011 study suggesting that texting and Facebook get people under the covers faster than ever.

And with new apps and social services like Bang with Friends, Tinder and MeetMoi, the technology that facilitates getting laid is getting more efficient.

What Makes Online Dating So Freakin’ Addictive?

On one side: excitement, excess, stimulation, mystery. On the other: safety, security, comfort, familiarity. Sex, romance, intimacy—all the things promised by finding the right match on an online dating site—drink from both. And so does the very experience of online dating. On the one hand finding a match and getting a lovely email from someone with a hot picture and an intriguing profile provides only a squirt of exitement, however much you may think you want a torrent. But on the other, well, there’s not a whole lot at risk. Sitting in your pj-s at your computer in the solitary comfort of your own home is pretty comfortable. You’re able to get a charge that is worth it because you are not really put that much on the line.

– From an article on Psychology Today about why online dating sites are designed to be play with our search for love by creating a “sweet spot” where the possibilities are endless while browsing in the comfort of our own home.

Similar read: Are We Wired to Love Google, Twitter and Grindr?

The Opening Ceremony of S.F.’s Largest Art Installation ‘The Bay Lights’

Finally, the much-talked about new art installation taking over the Bay Bridge is having its official premiere tonight. The Bay Lights installation, conceived by artist Leo Villareal, is made up of 25,000 individually programmed LEDs hung across the bridge, stretching 1.8 miles across the water.

The light patterns are loosely based on nature’s algorithms, especially the environment around the Bay Bridge: the wildlife, the weather, the ocean currents.

“I’m not literally using any sensors or making scientific visualizations,” Villareal, a board member of the Burning Man Project, told BuzzFeed. “If you want to think of it from a technology perspective, as the artist, I am the sensor.”

The $8 million project was individually funded by the Bay Area’s tech community, which make ”seemingly impossible things happen on daily basis.” Villareal hopes the project becomes more than a showy display of technological prowess. Like any other work of public art, he wants these lights to start a conversation.

The Bay Lights becomes almost a digital campfire that people can gather around,” he said. “Suddenly you are talking to people you wouldn’t have before. It is building community.”

If you want to gather around this digital campfire tonight for its opening ceremony, check out 7×7′s guide of nearby restaurants and watering holes with good views of the Bay Bridge. The Embarcadero is certain to be swamped, perhaps try venturing out to Treasure Island?

Are We Wired to Love Google, Twitter and Grindr?

For humans, this desire to search is not just about fulfilling our physical needs. Panksepp says that humans can get just as excited about abstract rewards as tangible ones. He says that when we get thrilled about the world of ideas, about making intellectual connections, about divining meaning, it is the seeking circuits that are firing.

Ever find yourself sitting down at the computer just for a second to find out what other movie you saw that actress in, only to look up and realize the search has led to an hour of Googling? Thank dopamine. Our internal sense of time is believed to be controlled by the dopamine system. People with hyperactivity disorder have a shortage of dopamine in their brains, which a recent study suggests may be at the root of the problem. For them even small stretches of time seem to drag. An article by Nicholas Carr in the Atlantic last year, “Is Google Making Us Stupid?” speculates that our constant Internet scrolling is remodeling our brains to make it nearly impossible for us to give sustained attention to a long piece of writing. Like the lab rats, we keep hitting “enter” to get our next fix.

If humans are seeking machines, we’ve now created the perfect machines to allow us to seek endlessly.

Slate piece about how the internet and mobile devices are overstimulating and rewiring our ever-seeking brains. 

Checking In with HIV

In December I commemorated World AIDS Day by posting a bunch of public service announcements warning men and women about the ongoing dangers of HIV and AIDS. This more recent campaign by the Finnish AIDS Council would have fit nicely into that gallery. I like how it incorporates Facebook check-ins as the viral metaphor for sexually transmitted diseases “by comparing social connections online to sexual connections in the real world.”